Sex Therapy

When intimacy feels distant, awkward, or full of pressure—you’re not alone.

Let’s be honest: pretending sex isn’t a problem in your relationship isn’t going to fix it.

Maybe you think about it sometimes… but it’s so awkward to talk about. You might even secretly wonder how often your friends have sex with their partners—but asking them? Way too weird.

Each night, you lie in bed and wonder:
Will they try something tonight? Should I?
Maybe it’s been so long that you don’t even expect anything anymore. And then the thoughts creep in…
Where are they getting their needs met? Is our relationship okay?

Or maybe you’re the one who wants more connection. Every time you reach for your partner, you get a sigh, a cold shoulder, or a reason why not:
The kids are nearby.

It’s been a long day.
You didn’t do the dishes.
They’re just not in the mood—again.

You’re exhausted from feeling rejected.
And when you do have sex, it feels like they’re just going through the motions.
Who wants to be intimate with someone who doesn’t really want to be there?

Has sex become about guilt, rejection, or pressure?

You’ve probably Googled things like:
“I have no sex drive”
“My partner won’t have sex with me”
“How to have an open marriage”
“How to fix a sexless marriage”

You’re hoping to find the thing that will help you finally feel close again. Maybe you've even wondered if opening your marriage would solve the problem—at least then your partner's needs would be met, and you wouldn't have to think about it anymore.

You might be surprised to know just how common these thoughts and dynamics are in relationships. Whether you're the partner who’s pulling away or the one feeling constantly turned down—this is something many couples face. And the good news is, there’s help.

What sex therapy can help with

Sex therapy is designed to help couples and individuals work through the emotional, psychological, and relational blocks that get in the way of a satisfying sex life.

Common issues addressed in sex therapy:

• Low sexual desire

• Mismatched sex drives between partners

• Body image struggles or changes

• Feeling “not sexy” or disconnected from your body

• Sex feeling like a chore or obligation

• Difficulty relaxing or shutting off your mind during sex

• Sex becoming boring, pressured, or disconnected

• Not knowing how to talk about your desires (or even what they are)

• Sexual dysfunction or discomfort

• Past betrayal or infidelity affecting intimacy

• Saying “yes” to sex to keep your partner happy—even when you don’t want to

Although these issues can feel isolating, they’re more common than you might think. And more importantly—they're workable. You're not broken. Your relationship isn’t doomed. But you do need a space to talk openly and get support.

What to expect in sex therapy

Seeking counseling for sexual issues can feel scary. Shame, guilt, awkwardness, or fear around sex often keep people stuck in silence. Sometimes these feelings are shaped by personal history, religious beliefs, early messages about sex, trauma, or past relationship wounds.

In sex therapy, we create a safe space to unpack these dynamics. Together, we’ll:

• Explore the emotional and relational layers behind sexual disconnection

• Identify what’s been getting in the way of closeness

• Understand each partner’s needs and values

• Learn new ways to communicate about sex, touch, and desire

• Rebuild intimacy at a pace that works for both of you

Sex therapy is never about forcing anyone to do anything they’re uncomfortable with. It’s about helping you find your way back to connection, pleasure, and mutual respect—whether that means rediscovering sexual chemistry, redefining intimacy, or healing after hurt.

My approach to sex therapy

I specialize in relational and emotional health, and I believe sexual wellness is a vital part of that. My approach honors your personal values, life stage, and relational needs. Whether you want to reignite your connection, understand why sex has become such a struggle, or learn how to talk about it without feeling shut down—this work is for you.

Let’s work together

If you're ready to take the next step, I invite you to fill out my counseling inquiry form, where you’ll find current availability. You can also learn more about me and how I work on my About page. Many common questions—including session fees—are answered on my FAQ page.

If you don’t find what you’re looking for, feel free to reach out—I’m happy to help.

You don’t have to keep struggling alone. Sex therapy can help you feel seen, safe, and close again. Let’s begin.

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